Recently, a new mom friend sent me a text message asking a question about something from "the early days". New Mom Friend is just coming out of Week One. I remember those days.
...or at least...I thought I did. And then I tried to answer her question and was all:
Because guess what--I was totally sleep deprived during those days, not to mention dealing with crazy hormonal fluctuations and Baby Blues and Mom Guilt and the overwhelming information on the interwebs and trying to play doctor on myself every few hours (because giving birth is a major medical ordeal, folks, and you have stitches...DOWN THERE) while also learning to keep a tiny new human alive. I really don't remember much, except that people came to see us and brought us yummy food, I was watching Treme on Amazon Prime during overnight feedings, and I spent a lot of time on my couch.
But pre-baby, someone suggested "get a journal, and write in it every day". And I did. And now, I can look back, and at least get a few chuckles. So I decided to share a few of those moments from the first 2 months here, with you. If you're an experienced mom, maybe these will trigger a few slap-happy early day memories for you. And if you're a new mom, or a not-yet-a-mom, or a mom-to-be, or even a spouse, maybe some of it might help you someday. Maybe even today.
Tues, 10/6/15 - Happy birthday *Baby J*! born 6:43pm, 19.5" length, 7#5oz. Rough night-Baby had trouble maintaining body temp. Nurses took him down to NICU 2x to be under the warmer. [Note: our hospital practices rooming-in to encourage/support breastfeeding; there is no well-baby nursery.]
Thurs, 10/8/15 - They sent us home. We know nothing. Tough 1st night: baby is confused between days and nights. Hubs & I take shifts sitting up thru the night with him.
Sat, 10/10/15 - Lesson #1: don't eat chili again. Baby bean farts are BAD. Rough night- Grandma, Hubs & I all take turns staying up with the baby.
Sun 10/11/15 - Was able to hobble through Wal-Mart with my mom to buy a nightlight for the nursery and some newborn onesies while Hubs stayed home with the baby. Had to lean on cart the whole time and was worn out by the time I got home. Much better night--sleeping 2 hours at a time [Note: This is my favorite entry ever. I look back at it every time Lil' Man has what we call a "rough night" now, which involves 2-3x wakings in one night.]
Mon 10/12/15 - Eating like a champ. Less fussy. Tried pumping for the first time after his a.m. feeding; got <0.5 oz. Depressing for 10 minutes of work.
Fri, 10/16/15 -ROUGH DAY. Soaked thru 4 sheets, peed on himself 2x during changing, needed clothes changed 6 times. Fussy most of the afternoon, not wanting to sleep or lay down. Learned how to wear the Boba wrap. Dealing with some serious Baby Blues. Hubs watched the baby while I ran some errands--A BIG HELP. My 1st time out of the house since Monday. Pumped at 8pm to see how much I was making: ~1oz. Fed it to the baby in a bottle--not great with the bottle, needed burped 3x, and still hungry after. Sorry, I'm empty. Thankfully had some stockpiled in the fridge.
Sat, 10/17/15 - Pumped at 10am: ~1.5 oz, and again at 5pm - 1oz. Mom was here, so Hubs & I were able to get out of the house TOGETHER ALONE while Mom watched the baby. Went to Walgreens to pick up photos and for a walk at the park. Sy fussy from 4:30-9pm, tried gas drops around 8:30p. Asleep by 10pm, slept in 3 hr chunks.
Tues, 10/20/15 - Baby is 2 WEEKS OLD! Hubs' mom here in the afternoon. Hubs & I able to go out for our 1st date night (dinner at Patrick's) since baby was born. Gone for about 1.5 hrs.
Thurs 10/22/15 - Baby only fussy during family photos-- go figure. Cooked dinner for the 1st time since baby was born: Italian sausage & zucchini "pasta" with a caramel apple sauce over ice cream for dessert. Published birth story on blog.
Sat 10/24/15: Baby very fussy this morning. Mom in town for the day. Finally got baby down for a nap around 12:30p. NEED TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Mom watched baby while Hubs & I went to Target. Of course, baby slept entire time we were gone.
Mon 10/26/15: 1st day home alone without the Hubs. Baby slept most of the day. Had trouble getting him to fall asleep after bedtime feeding--kept waking & crying every half hour until 1am.
Tues 10/27/15: 3 weeks old, pediatrician appt today. Baby has a yeast infection on his FACE. Had to get meds at Walgreens--baby screamed the entire time while waiting in the drive-thru because car wasn't moving, Cashier gave me grief because he didn't have his own insurance card yet. So. Tired.
Thurs 10/29/15: Baby wanted to be held ALL. DAY. Hubs' mom visited again & stayed with the baby so we could get out. Ate at Red Lobster. It was amazing. Pumped 2.5 oz...one of the girls is underperforming.
Sun 11/1/15: Mom & Dad came down so we could go to Amy's murder mystery party. Gone for 4 hours; baby ate 2 bottles while we were gone. VERY FULL...nursed him when we got home, and then still pumped another 5oz. OUCH.
Tues 11/3/15: Very fussy in evening--we are TIRED. Hubs is awesome for mastering the bedtime swaddle. I love him a LOT.
Thurs 11/5/15: 1st outing into public with baby--Taco Bell for free A.M. CrunchWraps. Baby doesn't nap well, was fussy from 3pm until bed at 9:30. ROUGH NIGHT.
Sun 11/8/15: [Note: a little over 1 month old] Went to Life Group for the first time since baby was born. Baby napped most of the day, then fussy all evening, and VERY fussy at bedtime. Woke up at 10:30p, 11p, 11:30p, finally asleep at 11:45p. Woke at 3:30a and 7:30a for feeding.
Wed 11/11/15: Dreary, wet, windy day. Stayed inside, but need to GET OUT. Hubs stayed with baby while I ran to get coffee without the baby. Took my time and found a geocache. Did not pump.
Wed 11/17/15: Smiles today! Don't care if they're just gas--I need them. Napped in swing until lunch. Went to Wal-Mart, baby fell asleep in the car seat on the way home, then wouldn't nap in crib or anywhere else except while being held. Had to use wrap to wear him from 2-6p when Hubs got home--including while making dinner. Didn't burn baby or self.
Fri 11/20/15: Tried bathing in the baby bath tub again--still hates it. [Note: We had to give him sponge baths on his changing table for about the first 3 months of his life.] Baby slept 10pm-5am. Checked to make sure he was still breathing around 3am.
Tues 11/24/15: Fussy in the evening. Tried putting him down to bed at 9pm--he fought sleep until midnight again. Woke to feed around 3:30am.
Thurs 11/26/15: Thanksgiving. I am thankful for my amazing husband, our miracle child, for a good job, a roof over our heads, family, no debt, and the exercise ball.
Sun 11/29/15: Head home from Mom & Dad's house at 5:30p. Stop at Menard's at the Lake--baby very fussy while Hubs ran into store--apparently gassy and big poop. Earth's Best diapers are WORTHLESS. Had to change him on the floor of a Taco Bell bathroom...nursed him while I was there, sitting on the floor, because why not. He slept rest of the way home. House was 47F when we got home because Hubs had turned off heat before we left. Had to set up a space heater in nursery.
Wed 12/2/15: Found mold in my pump parts. Cried. Then cleaned and sanitized pump parts.
Thurs 12/7/15: 2 Month Dr's appt today. Got 3 shots and 1 oral vax + Tylenol. Slept on way home then fussy every hour, fed every hour, with 1 hour naps between. Had a poo-splosion--tried to give a regular bath, but he hated it. Screamed when we took his Band-Aids off. I went grocery shopping to get away for a bit. Had two poopy (soupy) diapers overnight. Woke at 4am to feed, had to rock 'til 5am to get him back to sleep. Love him anyway.
Thursday, November 10, 2016
Monday, November 7, 2016
Another month, another post!
His favorite thing? A balloon they gave out at our church event.
Blurry babies are happy babies.
3. New Classes at Day Care. A spot opened up in the Ones classroom when he was 1y2w, so we moved him up (even though he'll be moving to a totally different day care once we're able to finally move into our new house). Here, he has to eat off plates, drink from a sippy cup (no bottles), sleep on a cot instead of a crib, and be surrounded by 7 other kids who already know how to walk and run circles around him.
So far, he's done amazingly well--he takes THREE HOUR naps. On a cot. It's crazy. He hasn't been doing as great with the sippy cups--he'll drink from them, but not finish it, so he's not getting a ton of fluids during the day, which has resulted in some [TMI] constipation issues.
4. Still Not Walking. And I'm okay with that. He will develop at his own pace. He's not going to college still crawling. It's so hard to wait for the big milestones though. Especially when you see other kids at the same age already THERE. So here are some other milestones he's hit:
- Initiating games of peekaboo with a blanket
- Hamming it up for the camera
- Throwing a ball to someone (and it actually getting really close to them)
- Putting things into (and then taking them out of) containers
- Dancing while holding on to the coffee table
- Climbing onto the coffee table
- Turning light switches on and off and knowing what they do (when he flips the switch, he immediately turns to look at the light)
- Pointing at things and trying to verbalize (the dog and lights/ceiling fans are particular faves)
- Pooping in the bathtub.
5. Talking. Our son is a babbling fool--he loves to jabber. But he still doesn't really use any "proper" words. Again--not rushing him, I know he'll figure it out and one of these days he'll be following me around yelling "MAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMAMA" and I'll be wishing he COULDN'T talk. But I know that as a responsible parent, one of my jobs is to talk with my son as much as possible so that he learns new words and how to converse, etc.
Do you know how hard it is to be an introverted parent of a toddler? It's actually really hard for me to force myself to talk to my son. I just want to sit here and feed you and make faces at you and take pictures of you. I don't want to prattle on about "Would you like some blueberries? Here, have some chicken. How about some applesauce? Do you like your blueberries? Would you like some milk? Mama bought it at the store just for you! Do you see Rocky? Yeah, he's eating the blueberry you just threw on the floor! He's a good little helper dog. Where's Daddy? Where's Mama? Do you want some more milk? What do you see outside? Do you see the tree? There goes a car! There's a bird in the yard! Did you finish your chicken? Do you want some more? Are you all done? Where's Rocky? Can you show me? Can you point at Rocky? Is Rocky a dog? Did you eat all of your blueberries? Yay, good job! Can Mama wipe your face? Then you can get down and go play!" It's really...really...really hard. But I do it. [Sometimes.] Because I love my kid. I just have to be very, very conscious of it and FORCE myself to talk.
6. Hot Dogs. He loves them. This is a new discovery, since we rarely have hot dogs in our house. And I'm a little disappointed in myself in regards to just HOW MANY hot dogs he's eaten in the last two weeks. But it's protein, it's easy, we had a bunch of them leftover from a campfire gathering, and he devours them. I foresee many more hot dogs in our future.
Blueberries cancel out hot dogs, right?
SOAPBOX: I don't have a lot of anti-vax friends, but I still have *enough*. Look--I respect your decision, whatever your reasoning, to not vaccinate your kid(s), even though I don't agree with you. Please have the grace to do the same. I made my choice because the people who developed those vaccines dedicated their adulthood, 8+ years of their education, plus however many years of residency and research, to the selfless mission of saving the lives of children and adults, and I would feel pretty arrogant to say, "no, I know more than you do, so I'm opting out." Because I don't. They went to school for it, I didn't. I'd be pretty annoyed if a random person came in off the street and decided to try their hand at MY job.
And the argument of "well, my kid never got vaccinated and they've never been sick" doesn't fly...
a) your kid, who's only ever been exposed to your OTHER kids, hasn't yet gotten measles, mumps, or chicken pox? Congrats, you've proved that herd immunity works in the small scale. Try sending them to day care for a week.
b) Vaccinations aren't going to keep my son from getting sick. He's still going to come home sick from time to time, because there's no vaccine for the cold, bronchitis, giardia, hand-foot-mouth disease, ear infections, etc. That's part of life, and building his immune system. Vaccinations are going to keep my kid from getting something that could KILL him. (Or in the case of chicken pox, at least prevent the both of us from being completely miserable for 2 weeks--seeing as how his father & I would have to take turns staying home from work with him while he's out of day care.)
8. At some point, your child may lick a toilet bowl plunger before you have a chance to stop him. Just...Fair warning.